I have the same experience and found that it was when my second child was born that we started finding very difficult to go to all the meetings etc. I was working full time my son was 5 years old and between children, breast feeding and housework there was not enough hours in the day to get everything done. So we started missing more and more meetings. The more meetings we missed the more the elders put pressure on us, the more I didn't want to go. One day I told my hubby that I was tired of trying to be the perfect wife, mother and JW. If going to as many meetings as humanly possible was not good enough for the elders that I just wouldn't go any more. That was the begining of the end.
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Putting off having kids?
by sweet pea init seems to me there may be some of you out there who have not had kids due to the situation where you are not of the same mind as your partner in wanting to bring them up as witnesses.
thinking back to besty and i before we had the two boys, i remember being of two minds - do i?
i was concerned that besty wasn't a spiritual head and he had even categorically stated that if we did have kids they wouldn't end up being witnesses.
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I am going to TRY and leave JWD for the time being!
by AK - Jeff ini am an addict.
and that is one good reason to back off some.
but the overriding reason is that my nerves have been frayed lately by the actions of a hidden 'stalker', a jw who is hiding behind a cyber-curtain.
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You will be missed!
Anyone here involved with wicca that can put a nasty spell on this starker?
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Positive changes in your life since leaving WBTS
by Mrs Smith infor me it's the friendships i have made with people that would have been considered too wordly to be friends with while i was still a jw.
leaving behind the guilt of never been good enough or doing enough.
celebrating the birthday of my precious children making them feel like king and queen for the day.
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For me it's the friendships I have made with people that would have been considered too wordly to be friends with while I was still a JW. Leaving behind the guilt of never been good enough or doing enough. Celebrating the birthday of my precious children making them feel like king and queen for the day. Giving my hubby his first ever birthday party at the age of 40! (This was a really moving experience for all our friends and family) Knowing that I have the right to ask questions and use my intelligence regarding any topic. Knowing that being a woman does not mean that I am a lesser being.
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Long time members, how do you cope with so much tragedy on this forum?
by PEC ini have only been here for six months and i can see why so many people have to leave or at least take breaks from this forum.. what are you doing to cope?
i want to stay, please help.
pm me if needed.. philip.
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Mrs Smith
Some stories on this forum pull at my heart strings for sure. Some days I just cannot cope with reading the more tragic post and steer clear of them. One the whole though I feel that we need each other and to just post a little message on someones tragic thread makes us feel like we are not alone. There is a lot of compasion and understanding on this forum and I try to focus on that rather than let the stories get me down. At least people posting here have left the WBTS behind. Most of us that have left or faded are having a lot of postive changes in our lives.
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A Pill To Forget?
by lisavegas420 ini saw a show the other night on 60 minutes.
a drug called 'propranolol' a medication commonly used for high blood pressure, it some how tricks the brain into making a weaker memory of an event that has been traumatic.
it is suggested that it could be used to change the way accident victims, rape victims, even soldiers remember after they experience trauma.
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Bottled up emotions have a tendency to erupt. Rather deal with the issue. I never want to forget or repress the feelings and emotions I connect with the WBTS. Remembering and feeling is what keeps me from going back there.
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Who has my Joie d'vivre ? I demand it back right now!!
by Crumpet inwarning: don't read this if you are easily depressed!.
here's how it is for me right now - no frills:.
its pants, sh*t, black, doom, gloom and don't spare the melancholy (pronounced mel-ankley if you are me).. what's brought this on?
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Hey Crumpie, are you feeling a bit better today? Worried about you.
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Engagement photos
by reneeisorym ini will be posting wedding photos soon but for now, here's a few engagement photos.. .
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Congratulations. I wish you all the happiness. You two look like you were made for each other!
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need a scripture, please help
by Mrs Smith inthe one that the jw use as a two witness rule for any wrong doing?
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Thanks Scully
How long have they given you?
About an hour. Should there be a lot of questions we will do a follow up. Hubby and I are doing this together.
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If they have a 'Good Heart' Jehovah will assure they get the 'Troof'
by AK - Jeff ini can't recall how many times i heard this tripe as a jw, especially following a sincere question regarding how people in china or india would have the same chance to hear it as those in the us.. i often wondered how god would account things at armageddon - would it go something like this?;.
" now as for you, mitmah and family.
you have lived your entire lives in the depths of the burmese jungles.
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I remember that line
If they have a 'Good Heart' Jehovah will assure they get the 'Troof"
Just like the rest of their teachings, makes no sense at all.
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need a scripture, please help
by Mrs Smith inthe one that the jw use as a two witness rule for any wrong doing?
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Thanks jgnat, I need this information for a talk I'm giving on JWs at my church.